{"id":777,"date":"2020-12-14T17:41:32","date_gmt":"2020-12-14T22:41:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/childwatch.com\/blog\/?p=777"},"modified":"2020-12-14T17:43:10","modified_gmt":"2020-12-14T22:43:10","slug":"helping-children-identify-and-express-feelings","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/childwatch.com\/blog\/2020\/12\/14\/helping-children-identify-and-express-feelings\/","title":{"rendered":"Helping Children Identify and Express Feelings"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"intro-content\">Children experience many of the same emotions that impact adults, but as they get older, they are in a continuous process of learning how to understand and properly manage them. Identifying which emotion they are experiencing is the first step, and only then can they begin to express them in a healthy way. Through these efforts, a child\u2019s emotional intelligence can truly blossom. (It\u2019s also important to note that an adult\u2019s reaction to a child\u2019s expression of the emotions they\u2019re feeling impacts how their emotional intelligence develops. Validating\u00a0 (rather than dismissing) a child\u2019s feelings while they\u2019re growing is crucial.)\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The Eight Primary Emotions<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>While many emotions exist, there are 8 main categories of emotions that are universally agreed-upon: anger, sadness, fear, joy, interest, surprise, disgust, and shame. However, that does not mean the complexity of emotions should be dismissed. When children can\u2019t comprehend why they\u2019re feeling a certain way and don\u2019t yet have a means of processing it, the result is often an emotional outburst. These moments constitute the learning curve that\u2019s a very normal part of better understanding emotions.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>How to Help<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li><strong>Give a name to the feeling.<\/strong> By giving a name to what a child is feeling, i.e. \u201cYour favorite toy broke, and you are <em>sad<\/em> about it\u201d, you help them construct a vocabulary of words that allow them to start making connections between what they\u2019re experiencing emotionally and ways to talk about it openly.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li><li><strong>Discuss an appropriate expression of said feeling. <\/strong>Setting a good example for children is always a wise idea. By talking about your own feelings and expressing them in a healthy manner, you show your child that they can create a solution to their problem. For example, you could say, \u201cI had a hard time lacing up my shoes this morning and it made me frustrated, so I decided to take three deep breaths, walk away from my shoes, and then tried again 5 minutes later.\u201d&nbsp;<\/li><li><strong>Form an open dialogue wherein your child can actively process their feelings. <\/strong>Ask questions, offer a warm hug, and be an active listener when your child is experiencing an emotion that they may be having trouble articulating. By gently asking them questions, you help them to better understand what they\u2019re going through. You could say something like, \u201cWhen you hurt your thumb the other day, how did it make you feel?\u201d, or \u201cI can tell you\u2019re having a hard time coloring that picture how you want and it\u2019s making you frustrated. How can I help?\u201d&nbsp;<\/li><li><strong>Offer praise. <\/strong>Rather than enforcing punishment when your child is grappling with their feelings, gently guide them and seek to offer praise when they express their feelings well. This helps children recognize that it\u2019s both normal and healthy to talk about their feelings, and more importantly, that they won\u2019t be harshly disciplined for doing so.&nbsp;<\/li><li><strong>Pay attention to cues.<\/strong> Be sure that you\u2019re always tuned into your child\u2019s body language, distinct behaviors, their words, and other actions. Identify patterns in the ways they\u2019re communicating, which of course, may look slightly different based on the child. If you are better able to help your child identify their feelings by paying attention to these things and why they\u2019re feeling them, they\u2019ll be better equipped at expressing and managing their emotions.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Getting to the Root Cause<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Helping a child get to the root of what they\u2019re feeling helps all parties involved: parents, children, and those around them. Fostering a safe environment for children to discover how they experience emotions, helping them create appropriate responses to their emotions, and validating them all the while will help your child feel secure in expressing their feelings.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Children experience many of the same emotions that impact adults, but as they get older, they are in a continuous process of learning how to understand and properly manage them. 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